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Why I Should be Allowed to Get a Lip Ring

First off, I want you to realize that once I am 16, seventeen in 6 months. I am a junior in high school. I know you know all of this, but I just wanted to point it out so that you keep it in the back of your mind, as you read this, that I am not a child.
Second, I want you to know that I have been thinking about this for months now and that this is not a random impulsive decision. Lip rings are a big responsibility, and I am more than ready to take that on.
Third, I want you to know that if you do not let me get a lip ring now, I will respect your decision, although I will disagree with it. I will get a lip ring once I turn 18, because I won’t need your permission, and I am sure that I will still want one. However, I really want you to support me and trust me enough to let me get one now, because I want to express my style in high school, and not wait until college
Also, lip rings are not permanent! When I decide that I don’t want it anymore, I can take it out, and the tiny hole heals over easily without leaving a scar. I have researched this and have seen many personal experiences that tell me that the hole is too small to cause any real tissue damage.
I am not asking you for a tattoo (which I have seen on many kids in my grade at school), or to dye my hair blue (which I have also seen countless times). I am asking you for a simple piece of jewelry. This is just like any earring except that it’s in a less common place. You always told me to be a leader and think for myself, and this is me doing so. I do not want to look like everyone else. I want to stand out and be different. However, lip rings are not so uncommon in teenagers that I would be thought down upon for having one. Also, I have seen many people at Etowah with facial piercings, including nose, eyebrows, tongue, and lip, so I know that the school does not have a rule against these things.
Unlike a tattoo or funky hair color, I can take out my lip ring (after the initial healing process of about two weeks) when I go to formal occasions or any place where it wouldn’t be considered “appropriate.”
I know that you only hesitate on saying yes because either 1) you are afraid of the safety and health issues, 2) you think I will regret doing this when I am older, or 3) you think it looks unattractive.
To reply to those:
1)If you take me to a professional body piercing parlor, there is a VERY low risk of any complications. While lip rings are not as common as other piercings, they are still common enough that the professional has had much experience in doing them. Lip rings are one of the fastest healing piercings. They are much less likely to get infected than most other piercings, including ears. Plus, surprisingly, I have heard from friends and read that lip piercings do not hurt nearly as bad as you think they would. It feels about like biting your lip. There is the initial pinch, but then it is over with.
2)As I said, when I decide that I need to get rid of the lip ring, I can do so easily simply by taking it out and allowing the hole to heal. There are no scars and there really is nothing to regret. I have no regrets in my life so far because I think you should live every day to the fullest. There is no point in trying to please any one else or fit in with other people’s standards because they should not matter to you.
3)I’m sorry if you don’t think lip rings are attractive, but I love them. They are a great way to express my style without doing anything permanent or irremovable. I don’t understand how you could tell me to be a leader and then not let me get a simple piercing just because you don’t like how it looks.

Lastly, lip rings are not very expensive. At tattoo and body piercing parlors, they generally cost between $30 and $50. I am more than willing to do housework or other chores to earn this money and pay for it myself.
Thank you for considering this. I wrote this in a letter because I feel that if I just asked you, you wouldn’t give me time to explain all of this or let you know that this isn’t an impulsive decision on my part. I have thought about this a lot and I know that I would be much happier and more comfortable with myself as a person if I knew that how I looked was a reflection of my character and not just a clone of other teenage girls.

i know it's long but i would really appreciate it if you read it and told me what you think of it.

I DON'T WANT TO HEAR THAT YOU DON'T LIKE LIP RINGS!!!!!! thanks.

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First of all, if you really wrote this as a 16 year old, you are brilliant. An incredible example to all young people.

If I was your Father, I would have to say yes. But only yes, if you actually produced this letter.

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please don’t tell me that i shouldn’t get one because i’ve already decided on it. read the whole thing if you can and tell me if it’s a good argument. my dad isn’t too strict, and i haven’t ever asked him for this before.

First off, I want you to realize that once I am 16, seventeen in 6 months. I am a junior in high school. I know you know all of this, but I just wanted to point it out so that you keep it in the back of your mind, as you read this, that I am not a child.
Second, I want you to know that I have been thinking about this for months now and that this is not a random impulsive decision. Lip rings are a big responsibility, and I am more than ready to take that on.
Third, I want you to know that if you do not let me get a lip ring now, I will respect your decision, although I will disagree with it. I will get a lip ring once I turn 18, because I won’t need your permission, and I am sure that I will still want one. However, I really want you to support me and trust me enough to let me get one now, because I want to express my style in high school, and not wait until college
Also, lip rings are not permanent! When I decide that I don’t want it anymore, I can take it out, and the tiny hole heals over easily without leaving a scar. I have researched this and have seen many personal experiences that tell me that the hole is too small to cause any real tissue damage.
I am not asking you for a tattoo (which I have seen on many kids in my grade at school), or to dye my hair blue (which I have also seen countless times). I am asking you for a simple piece of jewelry. This is just like any earring except that it’s in a less common place. You always told me to be a leader and think for myself, and this is me doing so. I do not want to look like everyone else. I want to stand out and be different. However, lip rings are not so uncommon in teenagers that I would be thought down upon for having one. Also, I have seen many people at Etowah with facial piercings, including nose, eyebrows, tongue, and lip, so I know that the school does not have a rule against these things.
Unlike a tattoo or funky hair color, I can take out my lip ring (after the initial healing process of about two weeks) when I go to formal occasions or any place where it wouldn’t be considered “appropriate.”
I know that you only hesitate on saying yes because either 1) you are afraid of the safety and health issues, 2) you think I will regret doing this when I am older, or 3) you think it looks unattractive.
To reply to those:
1)If you take me to a professional body piercing parlor, there is a VERY low risk of any complications. While lip rings are not as common as other piercings, they are still common enough that the professional has had much experience in doing them. Lip rings are one of the fastest healing piercings. They are much less likely to get infected than most other piercings, including ears. Plus, surprisingly, I have heard from friends and read that lip piercings do not hurt nearly as bad as you think they would. It feels about like biting your lip. There is the initial pinch, but then it is over with.
2)As I said, when I decide that I need to get rid of the lip ring, I can do so easily simply by taking it out and allowing the hole to heal. There are no scars and there really is nothing to regret. I have no regrets in my life so far because I think you should live every day to the fullest. There is no point in trying to please any one else or fit in with other people’s standards because they should not matter to you.
3)I’m sorry if you don’t think lip rings are attractive, but I love them. They are a great way to express my style without doing anything permanent or irremovable. I don’t understand how you could tell me to be a leader and then not let me get a simple piercing just because you don’t like how it looks.

Lastly, lip rings are not very expensive. At tattoo and body piercing parlors, they generally cost between $30 and $50. I am more than willing to do housework or other chores to earn this money and pay for it myself.
Thank you for considering this. I wrote this in a letter because I feel that if I just asked you, you wouldn’t give me time to explain all of this or let you know that this isn’t an impulsive decision on my part. I have thought about this a lot and I know that I would be much happier and more comfortable with myself as a person if I knew that how I looked was a reflection of my character and not just a clone of other teenage girls

its really persuasive, but the first line doesnt make sense. once youre sixteen…but you are 16. maybe you meant “i want you to once again realize that i am 16″

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So it may be stress, or it may be something worse. I have no idea but basically this is whats happening

I just entered my Junior year in high school. All honors, active in clubs, that whole deal. Juggling a job, homework, and family time is really hard. I hardly get any sleep, i survive off coffee, and barely make my grades up to par (I get in the B- to A range)

Recently (since the middle of september actually) I’ve had intense mood swings, mostly directed towards my family and best friend. One moment I’ll be fine, feeling great, and ready to start the day and the next I’ll be insanely irritated, and most likely to snap at someone. I called my friend a be-itch the other day for no reason. I’m not even the type to normally call my friends ‘be-itch’ either. I hardly ever swear

Then the other day I felt locked inside myself (maybe related to the feeling i got before I cut myself – stopped 3 years ago) and needed to get outside. So I went outside in a t-shirt, even though it was freezing, because I liked the piercing cold. Went into the woods a little bit and started to think of what would happen if I just walked away. Just ran away from everything. It became a whole little senario in my head, like a story unfolding of what would happen.

Things like that keep happing. Extreme situations will pop into my head, like what would happen if I just got up and walked out of school, if I didn’t go to college, if I decided to switch life around and be the type of kid that gets high every day.

My breath will get really tight and the room spins a little bit but then I’m fine
I don’t know what is wrong with me or if its just too much stress. Should I be concerned or is this normal?

You are suffering from stress disorder, which can be a combination of several things. People who run on adrenaline start to over produce it. You are also probably clinically depressed, or you’ve stressed your brain chemistry out of balance. I have done this to myself, so I know exactly what you’re going through.

You are trying to do too much on too little sleep. Believe it or not, if you are not getting 7-8 hours a night (preferably MORE) you are hurting yourself in major ways.

If you want to get better, you are going to have to be really hard on yourself. You need to decide what you can realistically accomplish in a 24 hour period. You need to cut some things out of your life.

This condition is going to take some time to reverse. You probably couldn’t get a decent nights’ sleep right now if you tried – even if you were exhausted. Your body is in overdrive, and cannot switch into sleep mode. This will improve gradually as you slow down.

Sorry, but you’re going to have to completely redefine your life and priorities. This means you may have to quit your job and be broke for awhile. Or, you may need to drop out of a couple activities. This will be difficult. You’re going to have to stop worrying about impressing other people.

I tell my kids that school is their full time job. If you don’t pull back and start to withdraw your condition will get worse. I pushed myself and pushed myself beyond any semblance of common sense because I thought I had to do and be so many things in order to be accepted.

Yes, you should be concerned. There is nothing wrong with you that cannot be fixed, but you are going to have to make some major changes in your life. In the meantime, if your symptoms become unbearable you should assist your healing process with antidepressants. Right now your body chemistry is screwed up and you could use the medical help.

Don’t keep pressing on and on. You will get worse and you don’t want to go there. Trust me, I know.

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My son, Cyrus is seventeen years old, he have been changing so much in a year that it is starting to really bothering the whole family.
It all started when Cyrus met this lesbian girl who was nineteen last summer. She was an artist student and saw my son fighting in one of his kickboxing match. She end up ask him to pose for her which he agreed to. Ever since that they have been best friend. It’s very odd because my son is normally aloof and likes to be by himself and do his own things most of the time.
Once Cyrus posed for this girl, he starts to get asked by many students to pose for either photography or art works. Which he almost always agree to do. So in end he meets many college age students, most of them are an art students or alternative people. Before we know it, he no longer hangs out with anyone of his age.
Cyrus have been doing kickboxing and Judo before he got into high school. Once he got in high school, he end up on wrestling team and dropped Judo. Before the summer, it was his junior year. His coach has been complaining bitterly about how Cyrus rarely shows up for practice, is extremely lazy, and doesn’t exactly fit in the team at all. But yet Cyrus managed to win almost all of his wrestling matches ever since freshman year. This year it got worst when Cyrus won the wrestling match for the state champion, he remains emotionless and walked away before they could even give him the reward. He’d never do this if it was a kickboxing match. I’ve tried to ask him why he did this, his reply usually is something like “My heart isn’t in wrestling” or “I don’t want to be associated as a wrestler” He normally keep his accomplishment to himself and often shy away from compliment, but I don’t understand why he did this at all.
Cyrus use to never be really into fashion. But now he’s totally into it. His new friends are always doing things to him. His hair is always getting changed, it have been frosted, highlighted red, and even Sid Vicious style. He also has been wearing more variety style of clothes that his friends helped him pick out. Some people even mistook him to be homosexual or celebrities from time to time. Because of this, a couple companies are already starting to sponsor him for his kickboxing and triathlon. It’s bothering me because they want to take him out of state or country to do kickboxing or triathlon. I can’t say I’m too fond of his friend’s taste in fashion either but I’m just glad he’s not dressing like as his friends.
His taste in girls also has gone down hill. He has been browsing websites such as suicidegirl.com. He also brought girls with tattoos and piercing home more often. I don’t understand how this could have happened. He used to have very good taste but now he like those girls for some reason. We have always thought they were just friends until yesterday.
I and family went on a four days vacation, but Cyrus didn’t want to go, so he ends up staying home. We were supposed to return on Sunday evening, but my husband was tired and need to rest for work. So we end up came home in the morning. We were shocked and upset to find Cyrus asleep on a pile of blankets with a goth girl. The blood stains were littered all over the blankets from all razor cuts and scratches from nails on Cyrus. There was also a cuffs and strand of rope wrapped around the coffee table. The girl was also wearing a collar that read “Slave” on it.
Today I tried to talk to Cyrus about this. I was even more upset to learn that this was Cyrus’ first sexual encounter.
I really don’t know what to do about Cyrus any more. He seems to have changed so much now and I don’t know if he will be ok or not. I really don’t know what to think of his friends either. They all are college students. They’re very nice and seem to be a good people who have helped my son so much. But at same time I just feel that they’re a really bad influence for him. I have no idea what to do any more.

mama ask cyrus to go out and have fun but not at him. u may find it difficult to see him like this suddenly but remember he is maturing enuf and can surely take care of himself. I prefer u just advice him and dont force him to do.. because once he fails in life then he will surely remind ur words….

So please done force him to do something but leave him and advice him as a friend instead of scolding or abusing him…

This is only my suggestion.

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I'm sixteen years old and think I may be mentally ill. I've always been a very intelligent girl; all of my teachers knew it, and my parents expected it. I have had great friends since elementary school, and well into middle school. In junior high, I started to watch the normality of my life crumble around me. My childhood friends shed from me into respective cliques, and my parents finally divorced. My mom had cheated on my dad with two different men, and I'd known about this since I was eight because I once eavesdropped on one of her phone conversations. My dad even took me out in the lawn when I was about nine and asked me, "Do you know ANYONE named James?" My dad hit me and my brothers a lot, but I always believed the punishment was due. When my mom left, I was thirteen, and my dad started hitting me a lot more, and longer. One day, I was showering for school, and (since I was in junior high and my brothers were only in middle school I left later for the bus) my dad kicked the door in and told me five minutes was long enough. He pulled me into my room, with my neck in one hand and my hands behind my back in the other. He pushed my face into the mattress and I was crying. My called his phone from wherever she was, and when he picked it up I screamed as loud as I could for her to help me. My mom threatened to go to the police if he didn't let me go to school, so he started arguing with her while I put on boxers and a shirt. I ducked under his arm in the doorway and ran as fast as I could out. I was crying so hard at the bus stop to my eventual best friend, Sam. She made me go to the counselor; at first I tried to lie, but then I started crying and told her. They called CPS that day and the next three months were hell. I recieved a worker who was "sympathetic to my father's predicament." The worker was also going through a divorce. It came to no surprise that since I didn't have sufficient physical evidence (since my brothers and mom wouldn't talk to them) they only advised ME to go to counseling… In the summer, I convinced my mom to take me in with her new boyfriend, who earns nearly six figures devoted to drugs and child support. I started a new life for myself at a new school as a freshman; I took average classes instead of the hardcore honors classes I'd been taking since sixth grade; I walked right up to the most popular looking girls and introduced myself. They accepted me immediately, and I met a couple of the best friends I've ever had through them. One told me straight to my face, "You are the best person I've ever met. Seriously, you are more honest and caring than people I've known my whole life!" But she and I don't talk anymore; my mom and her boyfriend moved into a city very near my dad's house, so I resumed my previous school- and life. I was in tenth grade, and everyone had forgotten about me. I had only Sam and Karen, two friends I'd made when I was twelve. Sam and Karen had moved on to different inner circles, but they still liked me. Karen is fun, upbeat, and tries to make me feel better about myself. Sam was darker, more of a realist. Her family was dramatic as well, so we clicked back together instantly. I took up her challenging honors classes with her. We had all but two classes together, and I spent days at a time at her house. She understood me better than anyone. I explained to her the absence I felt inside of me, where a teenager would be. She inspired me to be better than what my life was allowing me to be. One day, she met a boy. He was eighteen; a Guatemalan guy who supposedly sold drugs to boys in my grade, and he moved in down the street from her. He flirted with her everytime her saw her, and one night, she let him sneak into her room and with some beers. They had sex. She told me they were in love. Her parents caught them and a series of harsh punishments ensued; I was even banned from their house. I obeyed her father's groundings, yet he was more important to her, and she snuck out night after night to him. She talked to him on the phone over me. I felt neglected. She ran away a couple months later, and she didn't even tell me before she did it. Her grandma (mom's side) picked her up at one in the morning and let Sam stay with her- over an hour away. I was left alone. I didn't talk to her for weeks, all I knew was that she was gone. Then she called me, and told me her "new plan." We were going to go to college together. To give our relationship one more try, I took a bus to her grandma's house for her birthday. She got her eyebrow pierced and had recently picked up smoking, my first indications of her new guardian's great judgement. That night, I poured my heart out to her with everything I had. She wouldn't budge. I was recently sixteen, and down to one friend: Karen. 130 lbs, but I'm 5 foot 4, so I cringe at my thighs and stomach. I have a few scars on my face from picked-at zits that I can never, ever cover up, no matter how much makeup I use.

You are so young and have a beautiful life ahead of you. You were created for a very special purpose and for some reason I believe that God will use you to help a lot of unfortunate people. You have had it very tough though. Do you believe in God and prayer? He created you and you are special to HIM. Ask him to help you find the way. He has ways of answering our prayers. Believe me. I can tell you to get counseling but I want to emphasize prayer because I have so much faith in God.

At the moment things will seem bleak, but there is so much more awaiting you. if you havea special interest or hobby take it up. Will this boyfriend of your mom's who makes so much money be willing to pay for say art classes, yoga lessons (to reduce stress), pottery, dance classes? You need an outlet. You NEED to be around other people and not alone to dwell on these negative things. I did that at your age and I wanted to die! I'm 49 now and glad I didn't die. I have 6 children and 6 grandchildren and a special husband too. So, keep your head up. Find a bible. If you don't have one I'd like to get one to you somehow. Or go to a Christian church and they should give you one. The pastor will counsel you for free besides. Look at this website too. christianteensabout.com. It sounds like a cool place to check out. Also, your local youth group at a church is a great support system for you with positive interaction besides.

I wish you the very best.

Happy holidays to you and your family.

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